Somewhere along the way changing your mind or admitting you would do something different or were wrong has become not acceptable and seen as a sign of weakness and as a way to jump on you.
I never saw this Steve Ballmer video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v9d3wp2sGPIh. I never had as much respect for the man until after seeing that. He says we were wrong not going into hardware on the phone. We didn’t, I was wrong. Charlie Rose thinking there was blood in the water screams “Why didn’t you!!!” as if he just scored a point. You didn’t score a point. You lost a point. I can tear you down, actually means you only tear yourself down.
I think it is being taught in schools and “lawyering up”. Why can’t you say you were wrong? No today it is important to “win at all costs” never show a weakness that is a shame.
“I may be wrong in regard to any or all of them; but holding it a sound maxim, that it is better to be only sometimes right, than at all times wrong, so soon as I discover my opinions to be erroneous, I shall be ready to renounce them.”
― Abraham Lincoln, Speeches and Writings 1832–1858
“I feel I change my mind all the time. And I sort of feel that’s your responsibility as a person, as a human being – to constantly be updating your positions on as many things as possible. And if you don’t contradict yourself on a regular basis, then you’re not thinking.”
― Malcolm Gladwell
Every single day I think about what I got wrong more than what I got righ